[ISTP] Would an ISTP last with an ENFP in a relationship?
Mar 11, Another potential negative in this relationship is what the ISTP would view as ENFP "manipulation". This is extremely hard to describe. I know it. The last thing relationship-minded ENFPs need is to enter into marriage may also find themselves drawn to SP types (i.e., ESFPs, ISFPs, ESTPs, ISTPs). Mar 15, Extraversion and Introversion. An extravert and introvert may have some issues with one wanting the other to open up more, and one wanting.
Sensing-Intuition Joys Sensors enjoys the insightful and brilliant Intuitive and seeing things from a big picture, strategic perspective relative to theirs. Sensors are also likely fascinated by the outlandish imagination of the Intuitive; with big dreams and visions. Intuitives will appreciate the Sensors attention to detail in everyday living; Sensors bring Intuitives down to earth to common sense.
While not true for all Sensors, Sensors dress themselves and groom themselves relatively well; this is something that Intuitives will appreciate and admire. Struggles May find it a challenge to have a common topic for discussion; Sensors enjoy talking about everyday happenings while Intuitive enjoys ideas, trends and theories.
These differences in interest may mean the couple may find little or no chemistry.
Sensors are more past and present focused while Intuitives tend to be more future oriented; This means that Sensors will take references from past experiences and present facts to make a decision, while Intuitives are more likely to take into account future possibilities when doing so. Sensors may find Intuitives' lack of interest in everyday living and managing household tasks to be frustrating; they don't understand why Intuitives are always 'in their heads', pondering about the deep things of life while they are the ones taking care of the duties of the household.
Thinking-Feeling Joys Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler's compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others, which Thinker may find lacking in self. Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense. The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions.
Struggles Thinkers may hurt Feelers with their straightforward and sometimes tactless words; Feelers tend to take words personally; so when the Thinker provides negative feedback, it always evokes a larger than expected reaction from the Feeler. Thinkers may not understand the Feeler's desire for harmony and hence avoidance of conflict. Thinkers often misinterpret Feeler's behavior and deem them complicated. Feelers also tend to show affection much more naturally and sometimes they may feel their Thinking counterparts don't show enough of it; they may feel unfulfilled in the relationship.ENFP ISTP
Perceiving-Perceiving Joys Both parties enjoy being spontaneous to changing circumstances and keeping their options open without seeing the need to come to a decision. Both tend to be okay with going with the flow; for the most part, daily decisions like eating locations or recreational activities are decided on a whim.
Little conflict over these issues. Both parties are comfortable with disorganization in the household; the household will probably be messy, and both are perfectly fine with it. These sorts of dominant-inferior struggles can engender confusion with regard to what they want out of life and out of their relationships. Namely, do they want a more traditional lifestyle and relationship or a less conventional one? Their Ne-Fi combination relishes the opportunity to compare and experience diverse cultures.
Perhaps more importantly, as they go about their travels, there is a sense in which they hope to find themselves.
They want to figure out who they are, what they value, what they should be doing, where they might want to live, as well as their preferred type of partner and relationship.
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This is due to the fact that their Introverted Feeling Fi function is in the auxiliary rather than dominant position in their functional stack. Hence, less mature ENFPs can often seem rather fickle or hypocritical.
They may give lip service to certain Si values, while living in a way that seems to contradict those values. This can of course be difficult for their prospective partners, who may feel confused about who the ENFP really is.
In some cases, such confusion is justified, since the ENFP may herself be experiencing ambivalence with respect to her identity. We should be careful, however, not to prematurely fault or criticize young ENFPs for such discrepancies.
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After all, as extraverted Perceivers, their primary mode of operation is one of adaptation. Moreover, developing a firm identity, especially early in life, should, at least in theory, be of greater concern for IP types, whose dominant function is one of inner Judging Fi or Ti.
Concerns about finding a suitable career or relationship can also tend to push the identity issue for ENFPs, which may unfortunately hinder their natural course of type development. Ideally, ENFPs would exercise patience in young adulthood, allowing their Fi values to emerge over time.
ENFP and ISTP – Compatibility, Relationships, and Friendships
With exposure to different cultures and ideas, they can gradually use and develop their Fi, clarifying their identity and preferred course in life. The last thing relationship-minded ENFPs need is to enter into marriage prematurely. Unfortunately, as is true of other types, ENFPs are prone to taking apparent short-cuts to wholeness by granting their inferior function control over their decision-making. So instead of patiently abiding in their Ne-Fi process, they allow their Si to take precedence, deferring to what is comfortable, familiar, or easy.