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Oct 28, -The feeling thing can be an issue in ENTP and INFJ relationships as well. Even though ENTPs also have Fe in their top four function stack. Jan 16, I can only speak from my personal experience (as the ENTP - married to an INFJ for 12 years). In purely MBTI speak: For an ENTP the major functions are. This section INFJ-ENTP relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship.
Having assimilated cultural ideals promulgated by Fi romantics, they commonly judge a partner by the degree to which she inspires feelings of love or infatuation.
This is not to say that Thinkers should never pair with Feelers, but only that their relationships are best built on something more substantive than the primal attraction of opposites. This function contributes an enjoyment of being around people. However, in light of our above discussion, ENTPs authentically need people and relationships more for the sake of Ne dialogue than for Fe reciprocation of feelings.
As the functional opposite of Ne, Si urges them to forego the new Ne in favor of the tried and true Si.
It confers a concern for tradition, as well as for the development of behavioral routines and habits. Such relationships can provide ENTPs with what appears to be a fast track to wholeness. Unfortunately, it is rarely long before such pairings begin to encounter difficulties, as they realize how little they have in common and how different they really are. This is not to say that ENTPs could never make it work with SJs, but only that these relationships are predictably more challenging because of the opposing nature of the involved personality functions.
This is due, at least in part, to the fact that SPs are extremely common, especially in the U.
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ESPs, who are also Perceiving dominants, can resemble ENTPs in their tendency to be fun-loving and novelty-seeking this similarity is evidenced, for instance, in the conflation of Se and Ne in the Enneagram type 7.
These types may share interests in things like games and movies, as well as various physical activities. ENTPs, by contrast, are relatively unconcerned with material novelties and niceties, placing higher priority on creative and ideational treasures. Those pairing another NP type e. With that said, ENP-ENP couples may run into difficulties related to excessive similarity or a deficiency of complementarity.
They may find, for instance, that both partners prefer to be talking most of the time, making conversations more competitive or frustrating than nourishing. Seriously, their egos are fucking gigantic.
INFJs are idealists, but what does that really mean? The combination of dominant Ni and inferior Se works like so: The Ni-Se system deals both with major, unsolvable issues like world hunger, and obscure minutiae, like putting away dishes.
This happens in regards to everything from folding the sheets to grocery shopping, and it gets old fast. Another consequence of Ni-Se is that Se is their inferior function. INFJs do have a strong intuition, but are awful at translating that into real-world effects.
Round peg to square hole. Because of this, INFJs are never comfortable in their surroundings, unless everything is perfect.
It is draining to be with someone who never has enough, who has too much, who never feels right, content, or comfortable. It baffles me when people say that INFJs are open-minded.
They are simply not. Ni doms are going to be some of the most closed-minded people you could talk to, period.
INFJs are typically progressive, however, which could be where some of the confusion comes from. They are, after all, Ni-doms, and intuition is the name of the game for them. Tie this closed-mindedness with the never-comfortable trait mentioned above, and you get a lifeless sack that will spend all their time and effort trying to situate themselves in a comfort zone that barely exists.
This brings me to debate. What we ENTPs regard as conversation, they regard as debate, and what we regard as debate, they regard as malicious argument. Debate for the INFJ is simply defending their opinion at all costs.
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Their opinion is their intuition, and their intuition is what they value most and go so far as to identify with. Even if they attempt to take care of household, they may still miss important details in its maintenance. The partner that has to be constantly responsible for the everyday maintenance may feel resentment or unfulfilled.
A good balance can be achieved with proper delegation of duties or with the hiring of a domestic helper. Thinking-Feeling Joys Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler's compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others, which Thinker may find lacking in self.
Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense. The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions.
Struggles Thinkers may hurt Feelers with their straightforward and sometimes tactless words; Feelers tend to take words personally; so when the Thinker provides negative feedback, it always evokes a larger than expected reaction from the Feeler. Thinkers may not understand the Feeler's desire for harmony and hence avoidance of conflict. Thinkers often misinterpret Feeler's behavior and deem them complicated.
Feelers also tend to show affection much more naturally and sometimes they may feel their Thinking counterparts don't show enough of it; they may feel unfulfilled in the relationship.
Judging-Perceiving Joys Judgers enjoy making decisions for the relationship while Perceivers are happy just to let Judgers do so. Perceivers are happy to go with the flow according to the Judger's opinions, and they are generally okay with most casual decisions. Because of their organized and scheduled nature, Judgers bring a stability and order to the otherwise messy and spontaneous lives of Perceivers - something that the Perceivers greatly appreciate.